Understanding Self-Loathing: Developing Healthy Behaviors and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Self-hatred is a very real issue that can be difficult to recognize and even more difficult to overcome. 

It is a deeply ingrained negative opinion or feeling about oneself that can manifest in a variety of ways, including low self-esteem, depression, and social anxiety. Self-loathing can be debilitating and cause additional distress for those who suffer from it. 

Identifying and recognizing the signs of self-loathing is the first step toward healing. Negative self-talk, feeling unworthy or undeserving of love or success, and constant worry about what others think of you are all common symptoms of self-loathing.

Those who have self-loathing may be extremely critical of themselves and their accomplishments. In an attempt to cope, they may engage in self-destructive behaviors such as excessive drinking, overeating, or substance abuse. 

How can we recognize negative behaviors, patterns, and limiting beliefs caused by self-loathing?

1. Recognizing negative self-talk

2. Noticing patterns of self-sabotage

3. Becoming aware of perfectionism

4. Identifying low self-esteem 

5. Examining self-criticism 

6. Understanding irrational thinking 

7. Realizing the need for approval 

8. Accepting feelings of inadequacy 

9. Acknowledging feelings of worthlessness 

10. Being honest about feelings of guilt 

11. Noticing when fear influences decisions 

12. Admitting to feelings of inferiority 

13. Noticing when feeling ashamed of oneself 

14. Accepting the need for control 

15. Acknowledging when procrastination is used to avoid facing oneself

Self-loathing can be a destructive force that can prevent us from achieving our goals and living our best lives. It can lead to negative behaviors, patterns and limiting beliefs that can be hard to break. But, with the right tools and mindset, it is possible to change these negative behaviors and beliefs, and create a healthier, more positive outlook on life. 

Now that you’ve identified the issue, it’s time to look into the underlying beliefs that are causing it. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way and try to identify the root causes.

The next step is to challenge and replace these negative beliefs with more positive ones. This can be done by writing down the negative thoughts and beliefs, and then replacing them with positive affirmations. Speak these affirmations out loud and write them down, so you can start to shift your mindset and create a more positive outlook. 

Examples of positive affirmations to replace negative thoughts and beliefs.

1. I am capable of achieving my goals.

2. I have the strength to overcome any obstacle.

3. I am worthy of success and happiness.

4. I trust in my abilities and strive for greatness.

5. I am capable of creating a positive future.

6. I am open to new opportunities and experiences.

It is also important to find ways to practice self-care and build self-confidence. This can be accomplished through activities such as journaling or art, or simply by taking time to relax and recharge. Participating in activities that make you feel good, even if they are small, such as a bubble bath or a walk-in nature, can help you regain your sense of self-worth.

Finally, it is important to seek support from friends and family, as well as a therapist or counselor if necessary. Speaking with someone who can assist you in working through your issues can help you overcome self-loathing and develop a healthier mindset.

It is possible to break free from these destructive habits and create a more positive outlook by taking the time to recognize and challenge negative behaviors, patterns, and beliefs caused by self-loathing. You can begin to make positive changes and live your best life if you have the right mindset and tools.


Welcome to Mystic Pam Jackson, Spiritual Coach, ThetaHealer and Instructor, and Self-Help Author! Are you struggling with self-loathing beliefs and patterns that are preventing you from living the life you truly desire? If so, you’ve come to the right place. 

Pam is here to help you unlearn these negative patterns and beliefs and to help you create a new, healthier, and more fulfilling life. Pam is an experienced spiritual coach, Theta Healer, and self-help author who has dedicated her career to helping her clients identify and heal from self-loathing beliefs and patterns. Through her work, she has helped many people release their pain and find a new path of self-love and acceptance. 

Pam offers several services in which she helps her clients identify the root causes of their self-loathing beliefs and patterns, and then create a healing plan that works for them. Depending on the individual, this may include one-on-one sessions with Pam, ThetaHealing sessions, or a combination of both. During these sessions, she will work with you to help you create an environment of love, acceptance, and understanding so that you can find the courage to break free from these negative patterns. 

Pam is also an experienced ThetaHealer Instructor, having completed the Advanced ThetaHealing courses. Through her ThetaHealing sessions, she will help you identify the subconscious beliefs and patterns that are causing your self-loathing, and then she will help you reprogram your subconscious mind so that you can move forward on a path of self-love and healing. 

Finally, Pam is also a self-help author, having written several books filled with tips and techniques that you can use to help you create a healthier and more fulfilling life. Whether you are looking for guidance on how to recognize and heal from negative patterns or you are looking for advice on how to create an environment of love and acceptance, Pam’s books can provide you with the tools you need. 

If you are struggling with self-loathing beliefs and patterns, reach out to Pam today. With her help, you can learn how to identify and heal from negative patterns, and ultimately create a new, healthier life.

The Loss of a Loved One After Cancer: A Spiritual Journey with Pam Jackson

Why do cancer patients suffer in both life and death? Is it because we always say, “We’ll fight this”? Is our intent so strong that we bring it with us to the other side? I know we carry strong emotions with us; it is a part of our story that is recorded in the Akashic Records. This story, however, is just a glimpse into the spiritual transition after a passing and this is what I saw.

As I looked at his passing and his transition, I saw a fighter. He fought the cancer, his transition, and he was still fighting for his life that was no more.

I asked God to assist him in crossing over into the light. He resisted. He stated that they still needed him and that he couldn’t let go. We carried on with our work and I witnessed as his life story unfolded, and I saw so many things he felt responsible for and that he felt he would miss and miss out on. It was too difficult for him to let go of his family, his children, and his wife.

We kept working to help him transcend his human conditioning. It was painful for him to release and enter the light, so more work was required for him. Forgiveness, healing, and a new truth helped him continue to let go, as did knowing he could visit them whenever he needed to. He finally started to release.

Then finally he saw his grandfather, he was there to greet him, and he was extremely happy to see him. When he saw him, he knew everything would be fine. He kept going and then he came across a Harley-Davidson just like his, but he just looked at it and kept going. As he walked into the light with his grandfather, he was letting it all go.

As I write this, I can hear him saying, “that the struggle is real, but that he is fine now”. He is now aware that he is no longer in pain, and he feels lighter. He was always calm and wise, much older, and wiser than his 40 years, and I realized he was the one in his family who raised their vibrations and sacrificed for his family.

His pain is now gone. He sees everything, but he is still processing the transition back to the light body from a higher perspective.

He then notices someone and moves toward them; now he notices everyone and moves toward his family in the heavens. He is excited to see all of them. He’s off on another adventure now, with so much to see and remember. He has now progressed further into the light, and his earthly family can begin to process their own grief and loss.

I am shown that his family will always be surrounded by love, and although they will miss him they will always remember him and make him proud. 

Pam Jackson


Pam Jackson is a spiritual coach, healer, and intuitive reader who is passionate about assisting others in finding balance, clarity, and peace in their lives.

Her blog offers advice and support to help people discover their own inner strength and wisdom. She provides a variety of services, including healing and intuitive readings, to help people gain a better understanding of their lives, relationships, and spiritual path.

Pam can help people find the answers they need when they are dealing with a difficult situation, making a major life decision, or simply needing a little extra guidance.

5 Steps to Manifesting

Manifesting is a powerful tool to create positive change in your life. Whether you want to manifest wealth, love, success, or anything else, the process is the same. By understanding the basics of manifesting, you can start to create the life that you desire. 

1. Identify Your Desires

The first step to manifesting is to identify what you want to bring into your life. It is important to be specific and clear about what you want. Take some quiet time to think about what it is that you deeply desire and create an intention for it.

2. Visualize Your Desires

Once you have identified what you want, the next step is to start visualizing it. Spend some time each day visualizing your desires as if they have already come to fruition. Picture yourself living the life that you desire, and be sure to add as much detail as possible.

3. Meditate

Meditation is a powerful tool for manifesting. Take some time each day to quiet your mind and focus on your intentions. Spend time visualizing your desires and repeating affirmations of what you want.

4. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a key component in manifesting your desires. Practicing gratitude helps to open your heart and mind to what you want to manifest. Take some time each day to reflect on the things that you are grateful for, and recognize how they have helped you to create your reality.

5. Take Action

Manifesting isn’t just about visualizing and meditating. You also need to take action in order to make your dreams a reality. Take small steps each day that will help you to move closer to your desires.

By following these steps, you can start to manifest the life of your dreams. Remember that manifesting takes practice and patience, but with dedication and focus, you can create the life that you desire.


Mystic Pam Jackson is a Spiritual Coach helping clients to find their true purpose and achieve personal growth. With a unique combination of intuition, life coaching, and energy healing, Pam provides the tools and guidance to help clients unlock their highest potential and find inner peace.

Let Pam help you find your path and live the life of your dreams.