8 Steps to Self-Forgiveness

In our journey to inner peace and healing, both guilt and forgiveness of self and others have a profound effect on this process.

Guilt is defined as a feeling of culpability especially for imagined offences or from a sense of inadequacy; a self-reproach; and forgiveness as the act of forgiving or the ceasing of feeling resentment against an offender. 

Guilt and lack of forgiveness of self and others burdens many people with the heavy weight of inappropriate shame and the destruction of deep-seated resentments.  

In recent years, much has been written about the destructiveness of repressed emotions and particularly anger and resentment in contributing to life-threatening illnesses. 

The belief that feeling any emotions means we are weak is a dreadful legacy to burden people with.  Teaching people that strength means not feeling or denying our feelings is tantamount to creating illness.  Beliefs such as ‘big boys don’t cry’ and ‘good girls don’t get angry’ has resulted in men and women who are unable to get in touch with what they actually feel.  Depression is thought to be caused by anger turned inward and is only one of the symptoms of the need to protect ourselves from the scorn associated with expressing feelings.  Many other illnesses and particularly the addictions are theorized to be expressions of a deep level of emotional pain. 

Why won’t we forgive? 

I believe it starts from our unwillingness to forgive ourselves.  We believe that we are undeserving of love, respect, acceptance, appreciation, and the right to live a life where we walk in peace, joy, harmony, and abundance.  Somewhere along the line, we started to believe that all the rules and regulations of the society in which we live defined who we were supposed to be.  We stopped trusting and believing in our own inherent worth and came to believe that we were ‘not good enough.’  Messages such as ‘you failed,’ or ‘you should’ became a litany for us to abuse ourselves with guilt.  I call it abuse because it is just as painful when we do it to ourselves as when others do it to us.  We became judge and jury and found ourselves guilty of our perceived offences.  When the primary caregivers such as parents, teachers, and other societal influences are unable to love themselves unconditionally, this ‘learned attitude’ is passed on to the next generation as shame to control behavior.   

This sense of shame differs from guilt in that guilt is about behavior.  Shame is deeper and more pervasive.  It is about your being and feelings of inferiority, inadequacy, being bad and unlovable become the conviction underlying your life.  Children grow up believing they are ‘not good enough’ and become the caregivers for the next generation.  And so, it goes, on and on.  I am not blaming the parents and caregivers here as we parent the way we were parented.  My own definition of maturity is that maturity is achieved when we can forgive our parents and other significant adults for being human. 

What Is Self-forgiveness? 

Self-forgiveness is the willingness to believe that you are worthy, that there are no mistakes rather, you are on the planet, or in Earth School (as some people call it) to learn about being human.  The opportunities to learn are just that – not mistakes – just opportunities to learn. 

Practical Steps to Self-forgiveness

1.  Examine how you perceived a certain situation and how you can chose to change your perception. Remember that the thoughts we think create the feelings, and it is our perception that creates our interpretations of the situation. 

2.  Accept yourself and your humanness – you are not supposed to be perfect. 

3.  Admit when you make a mistake. 

4.  Remember that everybody is doing the best they can with what they know, and that includes you. 

5.  Let go of past-future thinking, stay in the ‘Now.’ 

6.  Confront your emotional pain – own your own ‘stuff.’ 

7.  Appreciate the lessons that have contributed to your growth and made you who you are now. 

8.  Say ‘I forgive myself for ____________ (whatever).’ 

Mystic Pam Jackson

Keywords: 

forgiveness, guilt, shame, resentment, repressed emotions 

Healing Covid in a Session

I had a client schedule a spiritual healing session as she comes to the end of covid. She called me to help her balance, reset, realign and reboot.

I usually see virus as anger, and it will run and hide but that wasn’t the case here.I had finished a 60-minute session with her before I went into that Medical Intuitive Guidance part of the session to begin to see and heal the virus. Most of the virus accepted the healing instantly and dissipated with ease but there was one on her heart muscle that would not let go. The virus had a strong hold on her heart. She confirmed that she now has heart palpitations due to the virus.I had to stay there as we worked to release the virus hold and attachment to her heart. When it was released, I went behind her heart and found more hiding, but they healed and released easily. I was then guided to go deep into her heart values where I found another one that was strong and attached, again we stayed to heal this virus. Once that was done, I was guided to continue my healing throughout the rest of her body.I saw the virus on her brain, and it had created brain fog for her. I saw the virus in her lungs, but most had already left and her lungs had begun to heal already. I saw some small covid virus on her liver, pancreas, esophagus and in her intestines and bowls.

Since she was on the healing end of the virus, most of it was easily and effortlessly being healed except for a couple of spots.When we had finished her session she felt better, felt energized and had gained clarity from her session today. I call that a successful session and a happy customer and if you are interested in scheduling a healing session with me please visit my website – http://www.mysticpamjackson.com – to schedule your one on one session either by phone, zoom or in person.

What is a Healing Crisis?

What is a Healing Crisis?

It’s natural for the body to react on many levels as it releases and removes waste and toxins that have accumulated for a long time. A healing crisis is the term for this period of temporary discomfort. 

The detoxification symptoms that occur as part of a cleansing regimen are a challenging notion to grasp. These unpleasant side effects are simply a part of the healing process that must be endured in order to reap the full advantages of a clean, healthy body.

Our bodies’ turbulence during detoxification can be frightening—even terrifying at times. Symptoms can be moderate or severe if the detox is done too quickly. Sometimes things are so bad that death would be a welcome relief. This is referred to as the “healing crisis.” It is natural for the body to react as it cleanses the accumulated poisons and waste products that have been retained for so long. We essentially relive past ailments and illnesses as they are made public. The good news is that once toxins are eliminated and discharged, we are free of future difficulties and diseases caused by them. 

Detoxification can be induced through dietary changes such as going vegan or raw; water or juice fasting; and herbal cleanses. The more toxins that have been accumulated, the sicker and more miserable you will be during a detox cleanse.

A healing crisis is usually identified by:

  • intense joint or muscle pain 
  • severe headaches 
  • fevers and chills 
  • skin eruptions (acne, pimples, rashes) 
  • insomnia
  • cramps
  • fatigue
  • mood swings 
  • emotional-rollercoaster-type behavior 

The reality is that while the body rids itself of the poisons and toxins that it has been burdened with for so long, there will be some discomfort. 

The discomfort is merely a sign that everything is working well, and the symptoms are only transitory. If you have severe symptoms that last longer than 3 days, you can find some relief by slowing down the detox:

  • Drink lots of clean, pure water 
  • Get some sunshine and fresh air 
  • Slow down and get plenty of rest 

So, if you can persevere through the ups and downs, you’ll soon be rewarded with radiant health and new opportunities.

Mystic Pam Jackson